Shedding people like dead skin off your body

"As recently as my early 30s, I would get aggravated with people that didn't do what they said they were going to do. I'm a fairly laid-back person..." And he went on to list various examples of people just not being accountable. He's 36 now so this is a fairly recent realization.

"Now," he continued. "I don't let people's lack of accountability get to me because I started upping my own standard."

My reader has had a very critical realization.

When you start taking accountability for everything, there are several things that will happen to you.

One of those things is you start shedding people from your life without care or anxiety.

That last part is about lack of anxiety is key. It's key because anyone can say they're not going to be X friends or be associated with Y types of people. But the fear of not being the group is what causes us not to commit to the actual practice of shedding people.

It's why FOMO exists.

It's why you see people announcing they're leaving XYZ social network and then within a month they're back on the network.

We don't accept full accountability easily because deep down we know the responsibility it entails.

Deep down we know it will take a commitment.

Deep down we know there's no safety net. Or at least we're conditioned to think there is not one. There almost always is by the way.

The way you view the world will never be the same. You almost start walking through it like there's nobody around you.

This post was inspired by a reader who gave me feedback to tell me that one of my posts sparked an acknowledgment in him. My reader didn't reference which post but my best guess is that it's this one.